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Sunday, September 9, 2012

Abnormal

I seriously dislike the family that I married into. They weren't like this when I initially met them some twenty two years ago, back in 1990 at the Cancer Treatment Center of Chicago. They were happy, normal people. I'm not sure what happened to them between then and now, other that random, casual sex with any willing partner they could find, extreme alcoholism, and enormous drug overdoses, addictions, self harm, heart break and failure.

We all experience one or more of those in our life. We don't all go off the deep end and start to set up the ones we love.

At least I never did.

If I had a problem with one of my family members, I sat down and talked with them. Saw their point, told them my complaint, and we worked together to compromise. But I am a sane and rational person. Over the past ten years as I tried to sit down and talk to Billy or anyone in the family keeping the fighting going, they would flip out. Name call, lie, claim exaggerated versons of my life and problems. I noticed this happened around February or April of 2002, and it's drove me insane ever since. I feel as though I am constantly walking on eggshells, that any little thing, such as the wrong juice poured at breakfast, would set off a psychotic episode.

We were all heavily medicated. Thorazine. Risperdal. Prozac. Cymbalta. Zoloft. Abilify.

We had all seriously attempted suicide, going so far as fighting others to let the sick person blow their brains out, overdosing on pills that only accomplished liver damage, or getting caught stealing barbiturates from hospitals or clinics.

We spent hour after hour in family therapy, telling a stranger why we no longer functioned as a family or even as people who could stand to live knowing the other was alive somewhere in this world.

We were suspicious of each other.

We lied to one another. Billy claimed "demon possession" when he physically beat me so bad I had a concussion, and brain damage so bad my "blue eyes turned black" or the retina was so huge because of the brain damage. Dennis claimed to have "multiple personalities" or "disassociation identity disorder," self-diagnosed, of course, and "Trevor," the oldest person in his community was the one who was the alcoholic, the drug addict, and the one who hated me and repeatedly smacked me when I "got out of order."

I stayed with this family because it was better than going back to my parents. Especially my mother. I knew if I lived there, I would relive several days of my teen years, and I never want to relive them. They are what caused the psychosis in my initially. Situations where I had to stay home from school with chicken pox for two weeks and the third week was spring break, so I got nearly a month home from school, and I was punished for it, by my mother sending my female cat to the animal shelter and made me watch euthanasia videos the entire time I was home from school. If I wanted to watch TV, I could only watch a euthanasia recording.

When I tripped, slipped on  the ice, and fell into my drunken failure of an uncle, and he thought I 'pushed' him, my mother punished me for that by breaking the neck of my tom cat, the brother of the female cat who had died a year earlier. She came into my room with the cat still alive, and made me watch her break his neck. I screamed and cried in horror, but it did no good. She threw the cat, his nose gushing blood, onto me in my bed in the middle of the night, shut and locked my bedroom door from the outside.

The last episode that I remember was when I was 16 and my dogs had gotten pregnant and given birth to a total of twenty puppies. It happened while I was in college that day and she was mad that I was "wasting money" by furthering my education. I came home one day and she told me to "go clean up the mess in the back yard" I thought I would be scooping dog shit. What else could be out there that needed cleaning so badly? I got outside in the middle of December, to find both adult dogs and nineteen of the twenty puppies murdered. Slaughtered. Blood staining the dead brown grass. Pieces of meat and fur were all over the yard, as if the dogs had been run over with a lawn mower. I remember I went numb, didn't talk for months after, and that I methodically cleaned up the mess. I buried the dogs deep in the wooded area behind our house so that no one could find the evidence. I remember sitting on the swing that night, sobbing, when a lone little female puppy, the runt of the litters, came out from where ever she had been hiding, and nuzzled against me. I picked her up, stroked her, and called Billy. I told him what had happened and begged him to come get that puppy. He agreed.

My mother enjoyed abusing those puppies that I spent days after school playing with, teasing, and playfully tossing them in a pile of leaves I had raked up. I would come in from the back yard after hours of playing with the babies, covered with muddy puppy tracks on my white shirts and jeans. Leaves clung in my hair, pebbles and pieces of sandstone stuck to the sides of my sneakers. I was a mess, but I was happy and I felt alive for the first time in my life.

My mother's entire family hated me before they ever physically met me. They called me filthy names before I had ever set foot in their homes or general presence. All lies my mother told them from the day she was given me back from the loving foster man, a transexual, who was treating me good and loved me dearly. My mother hoarded dogs for years. Little dogs. Poodles and chihuahuas. She had over a hundred of them. They were not allowed out of the house. My brothers and I were not allowed to clean up their shit from the carpets, or the hardwood floors. If they shit on our beds, and that was a common occurrence there, we couldn't clean the shit off. If they shit on the table, same rule. She would clean it, when she got time. But she was usually passed out on  illegally acquired tranquilisers and to this day, there is still dog shit from those dogs ground into her living room carpet. Cockroaches were so thick in there, if you left the light off to walk to the bathroom, you would step on them and leave a trail of footprints of dead cockroaches to and from where you had gone in the night.

The house had a strong ammonia smell all the way through it, and still does to this day. In 2016 the dogs and their waste will have been there thirty years. The smell would burn my throat and my eyes were constantly watering. My mother chain smoked and talked on the phone by the hour. If I dared open a window, she would nail it shut. If I tried to go outside, she would claim that "child services" would see me out there and take me away and put me in a place where I would be raped, maimed and killed the first day. She moved in a "male friend" who molested me more than once while she was on the phone. If I interrupted her on the phone, she would throw coffee mugs at me, or punch me in the head, showing off for her drunken friends who happened to camp out in our kitchen every day. When I told her what had happened, she called me a whore and a liar. To this day, she defends the assholes, even though one confessed that he did do it.

My mother would get drunk with my uncle as soon as my dad would leave for work. She would get my uncle and his girlfriend fighting by saying that she was screwing my uncle (she was; I caught them many times in the act), and they'd leave fighting. Fifteen minutes later, while I would be doing my homework, she would come in and make me go to their house with her. She could easily drive across town to their house to get in the middle of their drunken fights, but she couldn't drive me three blocks away to the school so I could participate in sports or extra curricular activities.

I learned to entertain myself, locked in that bedroom, with nothing but my note books, secret photos of my friends from school, and my collection of rainbow inks pens. In 1991, at the age of 10 years old, two months before my 11th birthday, I started my first journal. Writing kept me from going insane. I wrote down what happened at home. I wrote my fantasies, I wrote poems, I wrote plays, I started taking the journals to school and write there. I would write how the kids would make fun of me because I constantly smelled like cigarette smoke and dog piss. Sometimes the first ten or so exhales I would do in the clean school air, was pure second hand smoke that I had inhaled the seventeen hours I had been away from the school. By the time I was fifteen,  I had been prescribed all the breathing pills, inhalers and even oxygen known to medical science. In 2003, when I went to the doctor I now go to, he asked me if I had worked in a coal mine all my short life.

My father, who worked from 3pm until midnight every night, seven days a week, never witnessed what had gone on there. When I tried to tell him, on the rare occasion that he would ask me where the bruises or cuts came from, I would tell him. But he never believed me. I told teachers, they laughed it off. I told my family doctor, he did not believe me, either. I told every adult I came across when I was away from my parents, and they failed me. I was never removed from that environment. Living there was worse than when Dennis' family was feuding, as my mother was not afraid to hit me repeatedly. I remember times when her drunken friends had to pull her off of me because they were afraid she was going to kill me. I used to go to school in the mornings after, with vision that was still blurry from the blows to my head, a broken wrist, or the swollen face that was painful to move.

I cried for help so many times during those days, and no body came.

I don't know if it was because they enjoyed me being abused or didn't believe I was, that I was just bruising myself, from age six until fifteen, to lie and get my parents in trouble, but there was never an investigation. There was never even a phone call. It was just me against the biggest bully in the world, and there were many times that I didn't think I was going to survive.

I always turned to Dennis' family to get away from my own. It was better than what I had, even though Dennis has his own horror stories to tell. I always dreamed of running away from my home and going to live with them. The past five years, I longed to get away from them. It's a vicious cycle that one can never fully recover from. When I tried to run away, my friends would tell my mother. There was hell to pay when I got home.

Dennis never told. We used to hang out in the crawl space above my mother's house while she was drinking, doing tranquilisers and screwing my uncle, and entertain ourselves. Sometimes that involved lighting the antiqued glowing candles and pretend to be doing seances, or we'd light them for the warmth. The crawl space was freezing in the winter and late fall months. We would talk or read, or I would write in my journals while Dennis would rummage through old books and magazines.

All in all, it was abnormal. The story of my life.
I seriously dislike the family that I married into. They weren't like this when I initially met them some twenty two years ago, back in 1990 at the Cancer Treatment Center of Chicago. They were happy, normal people. I'm not sure what happened to them between then and now, other that random, casual sex with any willing partner they could find, extreme alcoholism, and enormous drug overdoses, addictions, self harm, heart break and failure.

We all experience one or more of those in our life. We don't all go off the deep end and start to set up the ones we love.

At least I never did.

If I had a problem with one of my family members, I sat down and talked with them. Saw their point, told them my complaint, and we worked together to compromise. But I am a sane and rational person. Over the past ten years as I tried to sit down and talk to Billy or anyone in the family keeping the fighting going, they would flip out. Name call, lie, claim exaggerated versons of my life and problems. I noticed this happened around February or April of 2002, and it's drove me insane ever since. I feel as though I am constantly walking on eggshells, that any little thing, such as the wrong juice poured at breakfast, would set off a psychotic episode.

We were all heavily medicated. Thorazine. Risperdal. Prozac. Cymbalta. Zoloft. Abilify.

We had all seriously attempted suicide, going so far as fighting others to let the sick person blow their brains out, overdosing on pills that only accomplished liver damage, or getting caught stealing barbiturates from hospitals or clinics.

We spent hour after hour in family therapy, telling a stranger why we no longer functioned as a family or even as people who could stand to live knowing the other was alive somewhere in this world.

We were suspicious of each other.

We lied to one another. Billy claimed "demon possession" when he physically beat me so bad I had a concussion, and brain damage so bad my "blue eyes turned black" or the retina was so huge because of the brain damage. Dennis claimed to have "multiple personalities" or "disassociation identity disorder," self-diagnosed, of course, and "Trevor," the oldest person in his community was the one who was the alcoholic, the drug addict, and the one who hated me and repeatedly smacked me when I "got out of order."

I stayed with this family because it was better than going back to my parents. Especially my mother. I knew if I lived there, I would relive several days of my teen years, and I never want to relive them. They are what caused the psychosis in my initially. Situations where I had to stay home from school with chicken pox for two weeks and the third week was spring break, so I got nearly a month home from school, and I was punished for it, by my mother sending my female cat to the animal shelter and made me watch euthanasia videos the entire time I was home from school. If I wanted to watch TV, I could only watch a euthanasia recording.

When I tripped, slipped on  the ice, and fell into my drunken failure of an uncle, and he thought I 'pushed' him, my mother punished me for that by breaking the neck of my tom cat, the brother of the female cat who had died a year earlier. She came into my room with the cat still alive, and made me watch her break his neck. I screamed and cried in horror, but it did no good. She threw the cat, his nose gushing blood, onto me in my bed in the middle of the night, shut and locked my bedroom door from the outside.

The last episode that I remember was when I was 16 and my dogs had gotten pregnant and given birth to a total of twenty puppies. It happened while I was in college that day and she was mad that I was "wasting money" by furthering my education. I came home one day and she told me to "go clean up the mess in the back yard" I thought I would be scooping dog shit. What else could be out there that needed cleaning so badly? I got outside in the middle of December, to find both adult dogs and nineteen of the twenty puppies murdered. Slaughtered. Blood staining the dead brown grass. Pieces of meat and fur were all over the yard, as if the dogs had been run over with a lawn mower. I remember I went numb, didn't talk for months after, and that I methodically cleaned up the mess. I buried the dogs deep in the wooded area behind our house so that no one could find the evidence. I remember sitting on the swing that night, sobbing, when a lone little female puppy, the runt of the litters, came out from where ever she had been hiding, and nuzzled against me. I picked her up, stroked her, and called Billy. I told him what had happened and begged him to come get that puppy. He agreed.

My mother enjoyed abusing those puppies that I spent days after school playing with, teasing, and playfully tossing them in a pile of leaves I had raked up. I would come in from the back yard after hours of playing with the babies, covered with muddy puppy tracks on my white shirts and jeans. Leaves clung in my hair, pebbles and pieces of sandstone stuck to the sides of my sneakers. I was a mess, but I was happy and I felt alive for the first time in my life.

My mother's entire family hated me before they ever physically met me. They called me filthy names before I had ever set foot in their homes or general presence. All lies my mother told them from the day she was given me back from the loving foster man, a transexual, who was treating me good and loved me dearly. My mother hoarded dogs for years. Little dogs. Poodles and chihuahuas. She had over a hundred of them. They were not allowed out of the house. My brothers and I were not allowed to clean up their shit from the carpets, or the hardwood floors. If they shit on our beds, and that was a common occurrence there, we couldn't clean the shit off. If they shit on the table, same rule. She would clean it, when she got time. But she was usually passed out on  illegally acquired tranquilisers and to this day, there is still dog shit from those dogs ground into her living room carpet. Cockroaches were so thick in there, if you left the light off to walk to the bathroom, you would step on them and leave a trail of footprints of dead cockroaches to and from where you had gone in the night.

The house had a strong ammonia smell all the way through it, and still does to this day. In 2016 the dogs and their waste will have been there thirty years. The smell would burn my throat and my eyes were constantly watering. My mother chain smoked and talked on the phone by the hour. If I dared open a window, she would nail it shut. If I tried to go outside, she would claim that "child services" would see me out there and take me away and put me in a place where I would be raped, maimed and killed the first day. She moved in a "male friend" who molested me more than once while she was on the phone. If I interrupted her on the phone, she would throw coffee mugs at me, or punch me in the head, showing off for her drunken friends who happened to camp out in our kitchen every day. When I told her what had happened, she called me a whore and a liar. To this day, she defends the assholes, even though one confessed that he did do it.

My mother would get drunk with my uncle as soon as my dad would leave for work. She would get my uncle and his girlfriend fighting by saying that she was screwing my uncle (she was; I caught them many times in the act), and they'd leave fighting. Fifteen minutes later, while I would be doing my homework, she would come in and make me go to their house with her. She could easily drive across town to their house to get in the middle of their drunken fights, but she couldn't drive me three blocks away to the school so I could participate in sports or extra curricular activities.

I learned to entertain myself, locked in that bedroom, with nothing but my note books, secret photos of my friends from school, and my collection of rainbow inks pens. In 1991, at the age of 10 years old, two months before my 11th birthday, I started my first journal. Writing kept me from going insane. I wrote down what happened at home. I wrote my fantasies, I wrote poems, I wrote plays, I started taking the journals to school and write there. I would write how the kids would make fun of me because I constantly smelled like cigarette smoke and dog piss. Sometimes the first ten or so exhales I would do in the clean school air, was pure second hand smoke that I had inhaled the seventeen hours I had been away from the school. By the time I was fifteen,  I had been prescribed all the breathing pills, inhalers and even oxygen known to medical science. In 2003, when I went to the doctor I now go to, he asked me if I had worked in a coal mine all my short life.

My father, who worked from 3pm until midnight every night, seven days a week, never witnessed what had gone on there. When I tried to tell him, on the rare occasion that he would ask me where the bruises or cuts came from, I would tell him. But he never believed me. I told teachers, they laughed it off. I told my family doctor, he did not believe me, either. I told every adult I came across when I was away from my parents, and they failed me. I was never removed from that environment. Living there was worse than when Dennis' family was feuding, as my mother was not afraid to hit me repeatedly. I remember times when her drunken friends had to pull her off of me because they were afraid she was going to kill me. I used to go to school in the mornings after, with vision that was still blurry from the blows to my head, a broken wrist, or the swollen face that was painful to move.

I cried for help so many times during those days, and no body came.

I don't know if it was because they enjoyed me being abused or didn't believe I was, that I was just bruising myself, from age six until fifteen, to lie and get my parents in trouble, but there was never an investigation. There was never even a phone call. It was just me against the biggest bully in the world, and there were many times that I didn't think I was going to survive.

I always turned to Dennis' family to get away from my own. It was better than what I had, even though Dennis has his own horror stories to tell. I always dreamed of running away from my home and going to live with them. The past five years, I longed to get away from them. It's a vicious cycle that one can never fully recover from. When I tried to run away, my friends would tell my mother. There was hell to pay when I got home.

Dennis never told. We used to hang out in the crawl space above my mother's house while she was drinking, doing tranquilisers and screwing my uncle, and entertain ourselves. Sometimes that involved lighting the antiqued glowing candles and pretend to be doing seances, or we'd light them for the warmth. The crawl space was freezing in the winter and late fall months. We would talk or read, or I would write in my journals while Dennis would rummage through old books and magazines.

All in all, it was abnormal. The story of my life.

Friday, September 7, 2012

Thursday, September 6, 2012

Something That Won't Go Away

When I arrived home, sure enough, a little travelling suitcase was waiting for me at the doorway. So was my dog. Kids weren't there, Husband wasn't there, father-in-law wasn't there. But my mother sure was, along with Creep! Brilliant!

I'm starting to wonder something. If I had been referring to him as Creep since I started my blog back in 2000, would he still be up my ass constantly, today? Sadly I think the answer is yes.

I had left my backpack from work on the porch before coming into the house. When Creep jumped out of his chair to take me to hell, I asked if I could bring my computer along. My mother seemed pissed off immediately, but Creep asked why I would need it. "Well, I have to get work done there. Probably while you're sleeping off the treatments," I replied with a small smile. I didn't think it was going to work, but Creep assumed that he was going to sleep after I let him fuck his brains whatever, since he has no brains, out. And he allowed me to bring my computer along. I assumed my mother was going to have one of her friends probe it, to see how much money Husband and I had, by one of her computer-savvy friends. A friend who would "make a mistake" and fuck up my computer royally, and I'd be left with the damaged goods.

I gathered up the computer, cord and the little pencil case that I had packed the night before, and went back downstairs. My suitcase was already in Creep's car. I air kissed my mother good bye, shut the door, grabbed my backpack and hurried to Creep's car, jumping in the backseat. He was surprised. "What are you doing back there?" he asked. "You're not going to fondle me at all while we go through this," I said. He started to say something. "And you can fuck me when you love me," I added. He seemed to wither at that statement, and backed the car out of the driveway.

I tucked my computer and cords into my backpack, stuffed the pencil case in the pocket. I had prepared for this little trip last night. If I absolutely had to do this, I was going to play by my own rules.

Creep has taken me right where I thought he would: His property on the lake. I found it pretty funny because he and my best friend Matt picked out this place when Creep was pretending to be gay.

My mother explained to me that I had to come on this trip to get Creep stable to live alone, something he has never done in his miserable life, but now has to since he's alienated his family and friends for that rancid invalid who abused us and he clung to since she occasionally sent him movies of her over-grown vagina in action. The whole story came out in the open (no pun intended) about a year ago when she started faking cancer and dying within a year or so. Fed up, Creep finally walked away from her after nine years of us having to put up with her abuse. By then, what few family and friends he had had either died or disowned him. I was one of the latter.

Creep wants to go back to his "old life" and show us that he is the person he was pre-April 2002, and get back to his old profession, clandestinely writing love songs to me and dedicating performances to me. However, it seems odd that according to his blog, and the voice messages I listened to on his phone, the dumb shit uses his widely know birthday as his password everywhere on everything, I am dead and he's no monster, his living friends and family are SEW MEEEEN and not speaking to him now that he's reaching out to them, how insane and fucked up they are for ditching him "when he's down" after he took the side of an abusive bitch who was harassing us by posting "anonymously" about us online, gave pictures of me to my stalker, told my stalker where my new website was, and forwarded it my emails to her, and the best of all ........ In Creep's blog, I am dead, and he wasn't allowed to go to my funeral, so he's going to have this memorial show for me on the top of the Tower on September 29th, or the day that his youngest son, another person he blew off to be with that bitch, was diagnosed as terminal, all to raise money to purchase head stones for his two sons, his dead dog, and I.

Hello?

Are you still there? Or was the drama too much for you?

I think I condensed six years worth of drama into that last paragraph. You had to be there to experience it. I frequently wrote about the "anonymous" who trolled me on my blog. Those entries are private now, so you can't read them there anymore.

I have CDs full of his chat logs with this bitch. I let him use my old computer to talk to her, and it secretly saved the chats. He spilled things that I had told him in confidence to her, without her even asking for them. He volunteered pictures of me to her. Sent her pictures and videos of me. Printed out photos of me for her. Sent her flowers on my credit card, because it was my computer and the info all posted instantly to the "billing" page. Lied about me. Left away messages that he knew she would read, waxing poetic about his forbidden love for me. Ranted and raved with rage that I married his "fat, loser brother" instead of him. Bragged, when the goings got tough, that he took my virginity. The lies. The stories. The fake domains. It was all so much and it seems to never end! After reading that these past couple of days, I didn't want to help. Fuck him. Diabetes can be figured out. Not every middle-aged man with it needs a three-week live-in with a private nurse that they have been lusting for since she was ten years old.

Needless to say, I don't want to do this. But I do want to keep the peace in the family and my own little group of friends. I have asked people to start sending me their sides of the story with links to this blog. I sent questions. I asked for answers. I don't expect to get any, but they have been asked. I think Creep does need a shut in for three weeks - in an psychiatric hospital. How could he do these things to me, and then wonder why I never loved him truly? I may never know.

The good part is that we're not going to stay at this lake for the full three weeks. I agreed on until Sunday because I have to go to New York Monday night and be home Wednesday afternoon. People are expecting me there, and I can't let them down. So Creep wants to spend those last couple of weeks at my place. Sure. Why not? My bedroom door has an internal latch-lock and an adjourning bathroom, and Josh has since trained me in firearms and I studied up on barbiturate mixtures. I think I can handle myself at home. I also insisted that Husband and the kids meet us up at this lake house, and have a little vacation of their own. I'm going to make it in to work this week, with three days off next week, and Chloe will make it to school all this week and next week.

No worries.

Just the annoying fact that people in my family still think I am a nurse and treat me as one. I am no longer a nurse! Just because I kept my RN card updated doesn't mean I really want to be one anymore.

G'Night all you happy people.
When I arrived home, sure enough, a little travelling suitcase was waiting for me at the doorway. So was my dog. Kids weren't there, Husband wasn't there, father-in-law wasn't there. But my mother sure was, along with Creep! Brilliant!

I'm starting to wonder something. If I had been referring to him as Creep since I started my blog back in 2000, would he still be up my ass constantly, today? Sadly I think the answer is yes.

I had left my backpack from work on the porch before coming into the house. When Creep jumped out of his chair to take me to hell, I asked if I could bring my computer along. My mother seemed pissed off immediately, but Creep asked why I would need it. "Well, I have to get work done there. Probably while you're sleeping off the treatments," I replied with a small smile. I didn't think it was going to work, but Creep assumed that he was going to sleep after I let him fuck his brains whatever, since he has no brains, out. And he allowed me to bring my computer along. I assumed my mother was going to have one of her friends probe it, to see how much money Husband and I had, by one of her computer-savvy friends. A friend who would "make a mistake" and fuck up my computer royally, and I'd be left with the damaged goods.

I gathered up the computer, cord and the little pencil case that I had packed the night before, and went back downstairs. My suitcase was already in Creep's car. I air kissed my mother good bye, shut the door, grabbed my backpack and hurried to Creep's car, jumping in the backseat. He was surprised. "What are you doing back there?" he asked. "You're not going to fondle me at all while we go through this," I said. He started to say something. "And you can fuck me when you love me," I added. He seemed to wither at that statement, and backed the car out of the driveway.

I tucked my computer and cords into my backpack, stuffed the pencil case in the pocket. I had prepared for this little trip last night. If I absolutely had to do this, I was going to play by my own rules.

Creep has taken me right where I thought he would: His property on the lake. I found it pretty funny because he and my best friend Matt picked out this place when Creep was pretending to be gay.

My mother explained to me that I had to come on this trip to get Creep stable to live alone, something he has never done in his miserable life, but now has to since he's alienated his family and friends for that rancid invalid who abused us and he clung to since she occasionally sent him movies of her over-grown vagina in action. The whole story came out in the open (no pun intended) about a year ago when she started faking cancer and dying within a year or so. Fed up, Creep finally walked away from her after nine years of us having to put up with her abuse. By then, what few family and friends he had had either died or disowned him. I was one of the latter.

Creep wants to go back to his "old life" and show us that he is the person he was pre-April 2002, and get back to his old profession, clandestinely writing love songs to me and dedicating performances to me. However, it seems odd that according to his blog, and the voice messages I listened to on his phone, the dumb shit uses his widely know birthday as his password everywhere on everything, I am dead and he's no monster, his living friends and family are SEW MEEEEN and not speaking to him now that he's reaching out to them, how insane and fucked up they are for ditching him "when he's down" after he took the side of an abusive bitch who was harassing us by posting "anonymously" about us online, gave pictures of me to my stalker, told my stalker where my new website was, and forwarded it my emails to her, and the best of all ........ In Creep's blog, I am dead, and he wasn't allowed to go to my funeral, so he's going to have this memorial show for me on the top of the Tower on September 29th, or the day that his youngest son, another person he blew off to be with that bitch, was diagnosed as terminal, all to raise money to purchase head stones for his two sons, his dead dog, and I.

Hello?

Are you still there? Or was the drama too much for you?

I think I condensed six years worth of drama into that last paragraph. You had to be there to experience it. I frequently wrote about the "anonymous" who trolled me on my blog. Those entries are private now, so you can't read them there anymore.

I have CDs full of his chat logs with this bitch. I let him use my old computer to talk to her, and it secretly saved the chats. He spilled things that I had told him in confidence to her, without her even asking for them. He volunteered pictures of me to her. Sent her pictures and videos of me. Printed out photos of me for her. Sent her flowers on my credit card, because it was my computer and the info all posted instantly to the "billing" page. Lied about me. Left away messages that he knew she would read, waxing poetic about his forbidden love for me. Ranted and raved with rage that I married his "fat, loser brother" instead of him. Bragged, when the goings got tough, that he took my virginity. The lies. The stories. The fake domains. It was all so much and it seems to never end! After reading that these past couple of days, I didn't want to help. Fuck him. Diabetes can be figured out. Not every middle-aged man with it needs a three-week live-in with a private nurse that they have been lusting for since she was ten years old.

Needless to say, I don't want to do this. But I do want to keep the peace in the family and my own little group of friends. I have asked people to start sending me their sides of the story with links to this blog. I sent questions. I asked for answers. I don't expect to get any, but they have been asked. I think Creep does need a shut in for three weeks - in an psychiatric hospital. How could he do these things to me, and then wonder why I never loved him truly? I may never know.

The good part is that we're not going to stay at this lake for the full three weeks. I agreed on until Sunday because I have to go to New York Monday night and be home Wednesday afternoon. People are expecting me there, and I can't let them down. So Creep wants to spend those last couple of weeks at my place. Sure. Why not? My bedroom door has an internal latch-lock and an adjourning bathroom, and Josh has since trained me in firearms and I studied up on barbiturate mixtures. I think I can handle myself at home. I also insisted that Husband and the kids meet us up at this lake house, and have a little vacation of their own. I'm going to make it in to work this week, with three days off next week, and Chloe will make it to school all this week and next week.

No worries.

Just the annoying fact that people in my family still think I am a nurse and treat me as one. I am no longer a nurse! Just because I kept my RN card updated doesn't mean I really want to be one anymore.

G'Night all you happy people.

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

The Way I Loved You

[NOTE: I was going to post this on my domain blog, but the only form of internet is my phone, and I don't have my password memorised, so I can't log into it right now. I can't reset the password from a mobile phone anyway. When I get home, and get to a computer, this may mirror on my website. Thank you for the patience and support while I am going through this particularly difficult time. Love can heal what Love has harmed.]

I feel sick, as if I am going to start throwing up any minute now, despite the fact that I have not eaten anything today but my morning meds.

I am shaking.

I feel numb.

My vision is slowed down to a crawl when I move my eyes around.

Funny thing is, I haven't taken a single pill that could fuck me up this bad.

No, this time it's a panic attack, brought on by the fear of what I am going to be facing when I get home.

It started at the morning break...

All the students here are on Fall Break, but I still assigned them to turn in their composition books today so I could have some free days to read essays, grade them, record the grades and have them ready to turn back in on Monday. I was doing good. Waking up this morning, and checking my calendar, I saw it was the would-be 50th birthday of my first love. The man whom I never slept with, but that I loved with all my heart. He taught me to look up at the stars, and told me that was the best tranquilizer know on the Universe. I only knew him three years, and then he died. It was a different death for me, because I witnessed it. I watched him struggle and die...

Wiping the tears of the past from my eyes, I went to work anyway, listening to happy music and pushing the thought of seeing my first love die out of my head. It worked. I was plucky and strict as the student stumbled in bleary-eyed and dumped their composition books into the cardboard box I had set up, and then shuffle back out of the school. Break time came around and I decided to call home. My mother answered. She told me something that changed me.

I am going to be needed for the next three weeks. Needed to accompany someone I don't particularly like, who has a habit of leaving huge bruises and scars on my face and down my arms when I don't do what he demands. She seemed happy telling me this. Of course she's happy. She lives to see me miserable. She told me that she had packed me some clothes and as soon as I come in from work, he will be there to take me with him. I felt sick. Nausea rolled through my stomach. I felt the saliva build in my mouth, warning me to get to a trash can or a sink, a toilet, outside, so I could puke up all the Smart Water I had chugged this morning.

"What does he want me for? Does [husband] know?!" I demanded.

My mother said something muffled and I heard my husband reply to her: "Tell her it's just twenty-four days. It's not going to kill her. Besides, she needs to contribute to my family for a change."

Gee, I love you too.

I've thought about this long and hard. Knowing what I know has made me feel worse. My arms feel as if they'er on fire, but I have not been out in the sun. I feel like I am going to throw up, but nothing has come up. I am shaking. The room is slanted. I have sat at the table for my students to drop off their composition books, but I am not keeping track.

My husband doesn't believe me. After all these years and all the confession and apologies where he said he would never allow me to be alone with that creep, here he is, saying that he's been tricking me all these years?

I'm in no condition to go back to work, and I'm certainly in no condition to drive home. Why would I want to go there? What ever is planned for the next twenty-four days is not good. It's not something that I want to be involved in.

I feel like I want to cry, but the tears won't come.

Shortly after hanging up from my mother, I called my man to see if he really didn't believe me. He said that things are different now, and it was me, after all, who said they needed a break. Yes, I said it would be nice to go on a vacation, but with my loving family. He wasn't angry or shitty to me, nor was he cold. He truly believes that I will be okay. He truly believes that I will make it through this just fine.

I have been getting text messages from Creep ever since. He even told me he has a "special ring" I can wear instead of my wedding band. Um, how about no?

I don't answer the texts, but he knows that I am reading them. I always read my text messages.

I have reached out to several friends today, practically begging them to help me. I have done all but get on my knees and beg to be hidden, to be suddenly unavailable at 2pm today, so that I don't have to go through this.

So far I have gotten no responses.

I'll post updates to Twitter as I go along. For now I have an hour left. For the first time since I worked here, the work day is going by too fast. I am also going to either cross post this to my site, or provide a link to it. I will keep everyone updated. I promise.

The email that goes directly to my phone, which I assume I will be allowed to take with me, will be the only connection to the internet for a while, I assume. Feel free to email me. I love interactions with humans. Who knows? I may become so brainwashed in the next three weeks that it won't matter anymore, whether people talk to me or not.
[NOTE: I was going to post this on my domain blog, but the only form of internet is my phone, and I don't have my password memorised, so I can't log into it right now. I can't reset the password from a mobile phone anyway. When I get home, and get to a computer, this may mirror on my website. Thank you for the patience and support while I am going through this particularly difficult time. Love can heal what Love has harmed.]

I feel sick, as if I am going to start throwing up any minute now, despite the fact that I have not eaten anything today but my morning meds.

I am shaking.

I feel numb.

My vision is slowed down to a crawl when I move my eyes around.

Funny thing is, I haven't taken a single pill that could fuck me up this bad.

No, this time it's a panic attack, brought on by the fear of what I am going to be facing when I get home.

It started at the morning break...

All the students here are on Fall Break, but I still assigned them to turn in their composition books today so I could have some free days to read essays, grade them, record the grades and have them ready to turn back in on Monday. I was doing good. Waking up this morning, and checking my calendar, I saw it was the would-be 50th birthday of my first love. The man whom I never slept with, but that I loved with all my heart. He taught me to look up at the stars, and told me that was the best tranquilizer know on the Universe. I only knew him three years, and then he died. It was a different death for me, because I witnessed it. I watched him struggle and die...

Wiping the tears of the past from my eyes, I went to work anyway, listening to happy music and pushing the thought of seeing my first love die out of my head. It worked. I was plucky and strict as the student stumbled in bleary-eyed and dumped their composition books into the cardboard box I had set up, and then shuffle back out of the school. Break time came around and I decided to call home. My mother answered. She told me something that changed me.

I am going to be needed for the next three weeks. Needed to accompany someone I don't particularly like, who has a habit of leaving huge bruises and scars on my face and down my arms when I don't do what he demands. She seemed happy telling me this. Of course she's happy. She lives to see me miserable. She told me that she had packed me some clothes and as soon as I come in from work, he will be there to take me with him. I felt sick. Nausea rolled through my stomach. I felt the saliva build in my mouth, warning me to get to a trash can or a sink, a toilet, outside, so I could puke up all the Smart Water I had chugged this morning.

"What does he want me for? Does [husband] know?!" I demanded.

My mother said something muffled and I heard my husband reply to her: "Tell her it's just twenty-four days. It's not going to kill her. Besides, she needs to contribute to my family for a change."

Gee, I love you too.

I've thought about this long and hard. Knowing what I know has made me feel worse. My arms feel as if they'er on fire, but I have not been out in the sun. I feel like I am going to throw up, but nothing has come up. I am shaking. The room is slanted. I have sat at the table for my students to drop off their composition books, but I am not keeping track.

My husband doesn't believe me. After all these years and all the confession and apologies where he said he would never allow me to be alone with that creep, here he is, saying that he's been tricking me all these years?

I'm in no condition to go back to work, and I'm certainly in no condition to drive home. Why would I want to go there? What ever is planned for the next twenty-four days is not good. It's not something that I want to be involved in.

I feel like I want to cry, but the tears won't come.

Shortly after hanging up from my mother, I called my man to see if he really didn't believe me. He said that things are different now, and it was me, after all, who said they needed a break. Yes, I said it would be nice to go on a vacation, but with my loving family. He wasn't angry or shitty to me, nor was he cold. He truly believes that I will be okay. He truly believes that I will make it through this just fine.

I have been getting text messages from Creep ever since. He even told me he has a "special ring" I can wear instead of my wedding band. Um, how about no?

I don't answer the texts, but he knows that I am reading them. I always read my text messages.

I have reached out to several friends today, practically begging them to help me. I have done all but get on my knees and beg to be hidden, to be suddenly unavailable at 2pm today, so that I don't have to go through this.

So far I have gotten no responses.

I'll post updates to Twitter as I go along. For now I have an hour left. For the first time since I worked here, the work day is going by too fast. I am also going to either cross post this to my site, or provide a link to it. I will keep everyone updated. I promise.

The email that goes directly to my phone, which I assume I will be allowed to take with me, will be the only connection to the internet for a while, I assume. Feel free to email me. I love interactions with humans. Who knows? I may become so brainwashed in the next three weeks that it won't matter anymore, whether people talk to me or not.
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